Comments on: I Have Two Sons http://voiceofgoldeneagle.com/archives/333 Sun, 25 Sep 2011 22:57:46 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: Night Eagle http://voiceofgoldeneagle.com/archives/333/comment-page-1#comment-1074 Night Eagle Sat, 28 Feb 2009 01:22:19 +0000 http://voiceofgoldeneagle.com/?p=333#comment-1074 Dear father of two sons. By now I hope there has been some reconciliation with son #1. Remember that as tsalagi, we recognize four emotions (mad, sad, glad, and afraid) Probably son #1 has gone through all of these, but when you are gone with a pack, they can be daunting. That's why keeping the lines of communication open is important. You raised him to think for himself and be independent. This is his chance to find out if he can. But this does not mean that you and your wife are to roll over and play dead. Tough love means that you have to let him go. Compassion means that you can listen and not compromise your standards. Forgiveness turns all the mad, sad, and afraid into GLAD. Someday I hope for the sake of son #1 (and my nephew #232) I hope you can all look back and see the Creator in this. Know of the great love I have for you all. When the dust settles, can this become a new song? Dear father of two sons. By now I hope there has been some reconciliation with son #1. Remember that as tsalagi, we recognize four emotions (mad, sad, glad, and afraid) Probably son #1 has gone through all of these, but when you are gone with a pack, they can be daunting. That’s why keeping the lines of communication open is important. You raised him to think for himself and be independent. This is his chance to find out if he can.

But this does not mean that you and your wife are to roll over and play dead. Tough love means that you have to let him go. Compassion means that you can listen and not compromise your standards. Forgiveness turns all the mad, sad, and afraid into GLAD.

Someday I hope for the sake of son #1 (and my nephew #232) I hope you can all look back and see the Creator in this. Know of the great love I have for you all. When the dust settles, can this become a new song?

]]> By: DK http://voiceofgoldeneagle.com/archives/333/comment-page-1#comment-971 DK Thu, 12 Feb 2009 01:28:48 +0000 http://voiceofgoldeneagle.com/?p=333#comment-971 Always remember that you still have two sons, and both of them love you. Being a teen is tough in their minds and sometimes we are not as cognizant of where they are troubled inside as we think we are. I also have two sons. It took the Air Force to "straighten" the older one out. My younger son, although a great kid, is just starting to find his path (now 26). Over the years, it has been the mother that has kept our family together. I believe, with your family, the mother figure will find a way, too. Sometimes you just have to let life take its course and trust that you have provided enough guidance along the way that he will survive, be successful with whatever path he chooses, and become the man you believe he will be. Always remember that you still have two sons, and both of them love you.
Being a teen is tough in their minds and sometimes we are not as cognizant
of where they are troubled inside as we think we are.

I also have two sons. It took the Air Force to “straighten” the older one out. My younger son, although a great kid, is just starting to find his path (now 26). Over the years, it has been the mother that has kept our family together. I believe, with your family, the mother figure will find a way, too. Sometimes you just have to let life take its course and trust that you have provided enough guidance along the way that he will survive, be successful with whatever path he chooses, and become the man you believe he will be.

]]> By: Mark http://voiceofgoldeneagle.com/archives/333/comment-page-1#comment-970 Mark Wed, 11 Feb 2009 21:50:58 +0000 http://voiceofgoldeneagle.com/?p=333#comment-970 Brother, I really get that you have to create the space for your son to find his way on his own. This dosn't make it any easier. I offer you my open space as a fellow elder and embrace you and your family. This is a powerful time and one that brings great lessons. Foremost it is a test of what we have already learned (often hard-earned). Know that I am with you and send my spirit to your son-in-transition and your son-at-home and your wife in the middle and you. Namaste, Mark Brother,
I really get that you have to create the space for your son to find his way on his own. This dosn’t make it any easier. I offer you my open space as a fellow elder and embrace you and your family. This is a powerful time and one that brings great lessons. Foremost it is a test of what we have already learned (often hard-earned). Know that I am with you and send my spirit to your son-in-transition and your son-at-home and your wife in the middle and you.
Namaste,
Mark

]]> By: Bill http://voiceofgoldeneagle.com/archives/333/comment-page-1#comment-954 Bill Tue, 10 Feb 2009 19:02:02 +0000 http://voiceofgoldeneagle.com/?p=333#comment-954 Hi Steve, Ben there(pardon the pun). One thing that has been true since the beginning is that family is the pillar that young lions sharpen their claws on. The things that he thinks are old now will be new and fresh when they are his truths. When I found myself troubled by parenting the one thing that helped me is finding a quiet place in my soul and listening to Joni Mitchell's old song "The Circle Game". It became a mantra to me. It was written long before she entered her "blue Period" and is one of the wisest and simple songs she ever wrote. I know you have it in your archives. Give it a try. It can't hurt. See ya in March I hope, Love Bill Hi Steve, Ben there(pardon the pun). One thing that has been true since the beginning is that family is the pillar that young lions sharpen their claws on. The things that he thinks are old now will be new and fresh when they are his truths. When I found myself troubled by parenting the one thing that helped me is finding a quiet place in my soul and listening to Joni Mitchell’s old song “The Circle Game”. It became a mantra to me. It was written long before she entered her “blue Period” and is one of the wisest and simple songs she ever wrote. I know you have it in your archives. Give it a try. It can’t hurt. See ya in March I hope, Love Bill

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